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As the school year approaches, families are starting to think about how they can ensure success for their children. But in an increasingly competitive and ever-changing world that’s not enough.
In addition to being academically successful, parents want their kids to be happy, healthy, and equipped to remain successful in spite of whatever the future may bring. In essence, parents want their children to have strong executive functioning because that is the skill set that ultimately helps kids to navigate uncertainty. And there sure is a lot of that!
The term “executive functioning” encompasses seven specific cognitive processes that are crucial for success in the classroom and beyond. By understanding and helping your child to foster these valuable skills, you can ensure that they will have the tools and strategies that they’ll need to manage both the stress and the opportunity that will inevitably come their way. For more comprehensive support, check out our executive function coaching page.
These skills require modeling and practice, and they take time to hone. Frequently, you will not even be aware of these abilities in yourself or in your children until things start to get off track. So we’ve included what it looks like for these skills to be strong as well as what it looks like when these skills start to lag.
The good news is that you, the parent, can help. Read on to learn all about the 7 Executive Functions. Also check out our Parent Coaching Program which is designed to support you in helping your child develop these essential skills.
For each skill, we have included some suggestions for how you can implement best practices in your home. The best news is that there is a lot of overlap about what helps kids develop each of these seven executive functioning skills. So, try implementing a few and see what happens!
1. Planning and Prioritization
Planning and prioritizing is necessary to create a roadmap for completing a task or achieving a goal.
Poor planning and prioritizing skills often manifest as a chaotic approach to academic responsibilities. Students struggling with this skill frequently find themselves overwhelmed by assignments, unsure of where to start, and unable to distinguish between urgent tasks and those that can be tackled later. They might miss deadlines or submit work that is rushed and incomplete as a result. This disorganization can lead to a constant state of stress and frustration.
Conversely, strong planning and prioritizing skills are evident when a student can effectively manage their time and tasks independently. They can distinguish between urgent tasks and those that can wait, allowing them to focus on high-priority items first. By breaking down larger projects into smaller, more manageable steps, and by setting clear goals, students can stay on track and work methodically toward a goal. This approach not only enhances their academic performance but also reduces anxiety and builds confidence in their abilities.
Parents can help students to cultivate strong planning and prioritizing skills in a variety of ways. These include:
- Model and practice effective planning: Demonstrate how you plan your time to your children and guide them as they plan theirs
- Teach goal setting and prioritizing: Help students break down goals into smaller steps and discuss the importance of tasks, ranking them based on urgency
- Create visual aids: Use calendars, planners, whiteboards, and checklists to help students visualize their tasks and deadlines.
- Provide support and check-ins: Assist your child with tasks until they can manage independently; continue to check in to ensure they stay on track.
2. Organization
Keeping track of information and materials comes down to a student’s ability to organize.
Students with well-developed organizational skills can efficiently manage their time, keep track of assignments, and maintain orderly notes and materials. They use planners or apps to schedule their tasks, ensuring nothing falls through the cracks. This proactive approach allows them to balance schoolwork with extracurricular activities, leading to reduced stress and improved performance.
Weak organizational skills, on the other hand, are characterized by misplaced materials, forgotten deadlines, and a general feeling of overwhelm. These students might have cluttered backpacks and desks. Their notes are often disorganized, which complicates studying and completing assignments. This lack of structure can lead to missed deadlines, lower grades, and heightened stress.
Parents can help students to cultivate strong organizational skills in a variety of ways. These include:
- Establish a daily routine: Set consistent times for waking up, meals, homework, and bedtime to create a predictable structure.
- Use organizational tools: Provide and encourage the use of planners, calendars, and checklists to keep track of assignments and activities.
- Designate specific areas for belongings: Create designated spots for school supplies, backpacks, and personal items to reduce clutter and improve accessibility.
- Encourage regular decluttering: Schedule weekly or monthly sessions to attend to tidy spaces and organize materials
3. Time Management
The third executive function, time management, is the capacity to estimate how much time one has, how to allocate it, and how to stay within time limits and deadlines. This is crucial for balancing school work with extracurriculars, social activities, family obligations, etc., particularly as students get older and their obligations become more demanding.
Students with strong time management skills approach their responsibilities with a sense of order and control. They effectively prioritize tasks, allocate appropriate time for studying, and complete assignments before deadlines. By using planners or digital tools, they create a balanced schedule that allows for both academic and extracurricular activities. This organized approach reduces stress and enhances their ability to absorb and retain information, leading to improved academic performance.
Poor time management in students is often marked by a constant state of rushing and last-minute panic. These students frequently procrastinate, leading to missed deadlines and incomplete assignments. They struggle to allocate sufficient time for studying, often cramming the night before tests. This lack of planning results in a chaotic approach to schoolwork, with important tasks falling through the cracks and a perpetual sense of being overwhelmed.
Parents can help in a number of ways. These include:
- Set a consistent daily routine: Establish regular bedtimes, wake-up times, and meal schedules to create a predictable structure for the day.
- Break down large tasks and teach time management: Help students divide big projects into smaller steps, explain the importance of prioritizing tasks based on deadlines, and assist them in creating to-do lists with specific time blocks for activities.
- Model good time management and offer rewards: Demonstrate effective time management habits yourself and implement a reward system for achieving time management goals with gentle consequences for not meeting expectations.
- Encourage breaks: Short breaks can improve focus, so encourage students to take short breaks during study sessions.
4. Working Memory
Working memory is a cognitive function that allows us to temporarily hold and manipulate information in our minds. It’s like a mental workspace where we process thoughts, ideas, and information. As a crucial component of executive functioning, working memory enables us to focus, pay attention, and complete tasks efficiently.
Students with strong working memory can easily follow multi-step directions, remember information presented orally or visually, and switch between tasks without losing their place. They excel at problem-solving because they can hold multiple pieces of information in mind simultaneously to find solutions.
Students with weak working memory may struggle with various academic and social challenges. They might find it difficult to follow complex instructions, remember details from stories or lectures, or complete tasks with multiple steps. These students may also experience difficulties with organization, time management, and problem-solving. Additionally, weak working memory can impact social interactions, as it’s essential for holding conversations and understanding social cues.
- Engage in Memory-Boosting Games and Activities: Encourage children to play games that challenge their memory, such as matching card games, puzzles, and Simon Says. These activities can enhance their ability to retain and recall information.
- Establish Routines and Use Visual Aids: Creating consistent daily routines helps children remember tasks and responsibilities. Using visual aids like charts, checklists, and calendars can further support their memory by providing visual cues and reminders.
- Teach Chunking and Organizational Skills: Help children break down large amounts of information into smaller, manageable chunks. Teach them how to organize information logically, such as categorizing items or using mnemonic devices, to make it easier to remember.
- Promote Active Learning and Retrieval Practice: Encourage children to actively engage with the material they need to learn by summarizing information, teaching it to someone else, or applying it in different contexts. Regularly practicing retrieval of learned information can strengthen their memory retention.
5. Metacognition
Metacognition is the awareness and understanding of one’s own thought processes. It’s like a mental mirror that helps us reflect on how we think, learn, and solve problems. Metacognition enables us to plan, monitor, and evaluate our cognitive activities, leading to more effective learning and problem-solving.
Students with strong metacognitive skills can set goals, choose appropriate strategies, and adjust their approach based on their progress. They excel at self-regulation because they can recognize when they understand something and when they need more help. These students are often better at planning, organizing, and completing tasks because they can anticipate potential challenges and develop strategies to overcome them.
Students with weak metacognitive skills may struggle with various academic and social challenges. They might find it difficult to understand their own learning processes, leading to ineffective study habits and poor academic performance. These students may also experience difficulties with self-monitoring, which can impact their ability to complete tasks on time and follow through with plans. Additionally, weak metacognitive skills can affect social interactions, as these skills are important for understanding others’ perspectives and managing one’s own emotions.
- Model Metacognitive Thinking: Parents can demonstrate metacognitive strategies by thinking aloud while solving problems or making decisions. This helps children see how to approach tasks thoughtfully and strategically.
- Encourage Self-Reflection: Ask children to reflect on their learning experiences by discussing what strategies worked well, what didn’t, and why. This practice helps them become more aware of their own thought processes.
- Teach Goal Setting and Planning: Help children set specific, achievable goals and develop a plan to reach them. Encourage them to think about potential obstacles and how to overcome them, fostering a proactive approach to learning.
- Promote Self-Monitoring and Adjustment: Encourage children to regularly check their progress towards their goals and adjust their strategies as needed. This ongoing self-assessment helps them stay on track and become more adaptable learners.
6. Response Inhibition
Response inhibition helps us manage our attention, avoid impulsive actions, and follow through with planned activities.
Students with strong response inhibition can stay focused on their work, even when faced with distractions. They can think before they act, making them more likely to consider the consequences of their actions. These students are often better at completing tasks, following rules, and interacting positively with peers because they can control their impulses and behave appropriately in different contexts.
Students with weak response inhibition may struggle with various academic and social challenges. They might find it difficult to stay focused on tasks, frequently getting distracted or acting impulsively. These students may also experience difficulties with following rules, managing their emotions, and interacting with others, as they might act without thinking or interrupt conversations. Additionally, weak response inhibition can impact their ability to complete assignments on time and adhere to schedules.
- Practice Mindfulness and Self-Regulation Techniques: Encourage children to practice mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing and meditation. These techniques can help them become more aware of their impulses and develop better self-control.
- Implement Clear Rules and Consistent Consequences: Establish clear household rules and consistent consequences for impulsive behaviors. This helps children understand the importance of self-regulation and the impact of their actions.
- Use Positive Reinforcement: Reinforce positive behaviors with praise and rewards. Recognizing and rewarding self-controlled actions can motivate children to continue practicing response inhibition.
- Teach Problem-Solving Skills: Help children develop problem-solving skills by discussing different scenarios and possible responses. Encourage them to think about the consequences of their actions and choose the best course of action. This practice can enhance their ability to control impulses and make thoughtful decisions.
7. Emotional Control
Emotional control is the ability to manage and regulate one’s emotions, particularly in challenging or stressful situations. It’s a vital component of executive functioning, allowing us to respond to our emotions in a balanced and constructive way. Emotional control helps us maintain focus, make rational decisions, and interact positively with others.
Students with strong emotional control can stay calm and focused even when faced with frustration or stress. They are better able to handle setbacks, adapt to changes, and maintain positive relationships with peers and teachers. These students can navigate social and academic challenges more effectively because they can manage their emotions and respond thoughtfully rather than impulsively.
Students with weak emotional control may struggle with various academic and social challenges. They might find it difficult to stay calm when things don’t go as planned, leading to outbursts or withdrawal. These students may also experience difficulties with maintaining positive relationships, as their emotional responses can sometimes be unpredictable or disproportionate. Additionally, weak emotional control can impact their ability to focus on tasks, complete assignments, and participate fully in classroom activities.
- Practice Deep Breathing and Relaxation Techniques: Teach children deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or other relaxation techniques. These practices can help them calm down when they feel upset or overwhelmed.
- Encourage Emotional Awareness and Expression: Help children identify and express their emotions in healthy ways. Encourage them to talk about their feelings and validate their emotions, helping them understand that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions.
- Model Positive Emotional Regulation: Demonstrate healthy ways of managing emotions by handling your own emotions calmly and constructively. Children learn by observing, so showing them how to cope with stress and frustration can be very effective.
- Create a Supportive Environment: Foster a supportive and understanding environment where children feel safe to express their emotions. Provide comfort and reassurance, helping them develop a sense of security and trust that can enhance their emotional regulation skills.
Conclusion
As we embark on another school year, consider this opportunity to help your child(ren) succeed through the development of strong executive functioning skills. By focusing on these seven key areas, you can help your child build a solid foundation for managing the complexities of school and life.
While it may be relatively “simple,” we understand that putting these practices into play every day can sometimes feel like another challenge, maybe even one that is unsurmountable.
If that is the case, you are not alone. The Chicago Family Tutor is here to support you every step of the way, offering personalized strategies and expert guidance to enhance your child’s executive functioning skills.
Contact us today for a free consultation and to learn how we can help your family achieve success this school year through targeted, effective tutoring and coaching.
Together, we can empower your child to reach their full potential so that they thrive no matter where they land.
Additional Resources
Here are some other resources for kids, adults, and families with ADHD to further help with time management.
Resources for Elementary Students
- “Smart but Scattered” by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare: This book offers practical strategies and activities tailored for young children to improve their executive functioning skills, such as planning, organization, and impulse control.
- “The Unstoppable Kids Workbook” by James J. Crist, Ph.D.: This workbook is filled with fun exercises and activities designed to help children develop key executive functioning skills, including time management, memory, and emotional regulation.
- GoNoodle: An online platform offering interactive videos and games that encourage movement and mindfulness, helping young children improve focus, self-control, and emotional regulation.
Resources for Middle School Students
- “Boosting Executive Skills in the Classroom” by Joyce Cooper-Kahn and Margaret Foster: This book provides teachers and parents with strategies to help middle school students develop executive functioning skills, including goal setting, organization, and time management.
- Executive Functioning Skills Workbook by Sofia Aguirre, Ph.D.: This workbook offers practical exercises and activities designed specifically for middle school students to improve their executive functioning skills, such as planning, prioritization, and self-monitoring.
- Khan Academy: This free online resource offers structured lessons and practice exercises in various subjects, helping students develop self-discipline, time management, and goal-setting skills.
Resources for High School Students
- “The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens” by Sharon A. Hansen: This workbook provides high school students with tools and strategies to enhance their executive functioning skills, such as organization, planning, and goal-setting.
- “Smart but Scattered Teens” by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, and Colin Guare: This book offers practical advice and strategies for teens and their parents to improve executive functioning skills, including time management, organization, and self-regulation.
- Evernote: A versatile app that helps high school students organize their notes, assignments, and schedules, promoting better planning, time management, and information retention skills.
Resources for Families
- “Busy Parents, Happy Kids” by Lindsay Zoeller: This book offers practical strategies for busy parents to support their children’s executive functioning skills. It provides tips on time management, organization, and creating a balanced family routine that promotes healthy development and reduces stress.
- “Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary ‘Executive Skills’ Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential” by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare: This book provides parents with a comprehensive guide to understanding and improving their children’s executive functioning skills. It includes practical strategies and tools for helping kids with planning, organization, and time management.
- “The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind” by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson: This book offers insights and strategies for parents to help their children develop strong executive functioning skills by integrating the two hemispheres of the brain. It provides practical advice on fostering emotional regulation, problem-solving, and resilience.
Resources and Tools for Parents with Poor Executive Functioning Skills
- “The Smart but Scattered Guide to Success: How to Use Your Brain’s Executive Skills to Keep Up, Stay Calm, and Get Organized at Work and at Home” by Peg Dawson and Richard Guare: This book offers practical strategies for adults to improve their own executive functioning skills. It provides tools for organization, time management, and planning, helping parents lead by example and better support their children.
- “Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones” by James Clear: This book focuses on building small, incremental habits that can lead to significant improvements in executive functioning skills. It includes practical advice on how to create effective routines, set goals, and prioritize tasks.
- Todoist: This app is a powerful tool for managing tasks and projects, helping parents stay organized and on top of their responsibilities. With features like due dates, reminders, and project templates, Todoist can aid in improving planning and prioritizing skills.
- “Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity” by David Allen: This classic book introduces the GTD methodology, which offers a comprehensive system for managing tasks, projects, and goals. It provides practical advice for improving organization, time management, and prioritization, making it easier for parents to manage their daily responsibilities.
- “The Executive Functioning Workbook for Adults: A Practical Guide to Help Adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Executive Dysfunction to Develop Strategies and Skills for Organization, Time Management, and Goal Achievement” by James W. Forgan and Mary Anne Richey: This workbook offers practical exercises and strategies to help adults improve their executive functioning skills, including planning, prioritizing, and organizing.
- Evernote: This versatile app helps parents organize their notes, tasks, and schedules. Evernote’s features include note-taking, task management, and calendar integration, which can help improve planning and prioritizing skills.